Helpmeet

SOURCE: Guy N. Woods, in Teacher’s Annual Lesson Commentary, 1946, pages 156-157.

An Helpmeet Made for Man (Genesis 2:18).

And Jehovah God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him.” The Revised Version has a marginal note over the words “help meet,” which reads “answering to,” that is, woman is an help answering to man’s needs. The Jewish commentary by Hertz offers these comments on this passage: “‘It is not good.’ From this verse the Rabbis deduce that marriage is a divine institution, a holy estate in which alone man lives his true and complete life. Celibacy is contrary to nature. ‘A help.’ A wife is not a man’s shadow or subordinate, but his other self, his ‘helper’ in a sense in which no other creature on earth can be. ‘Meet for him.’ To match him. The Hebrew term k’negdo may mean either ‘at his side,’ i.e., fit to associate with; or, ‘as over against him,’ i.e., corresponding to him.”

The practice of celibacy, to live in an unmarried state is, therefore, contrary to the design of God who created us. It is a sad commentary on man’s perverted character to note that great portions of the human family subscribe to the view that it is better to live an ascetic and hermitic life than to live as God ordained. As Clarke observes, “As man was made a social creature, it was not proper that he should be alone: for to be alone, i.e., without a matrimonial companion, was not good, whether it be on the side of the man or the woman. Men may, in opposition to the declaration of God, call this a state of excellence and a state of perfection; but let them remember that the word of God says the reverse.”

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Woman’s Origin

SOURCE: Teacher’s Annual Lesson Commentary, 1981, page 17.

Origin of Woman (Genesis 2:21-23).

And Jehovah God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and he slept; and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof: and the rib, which Jehovah God had taken from the man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And the man said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.

The creation of woman was something special, above even the creation of man. While man was made from the dust of the ground (Gen 2:7) and was dust refined, woman was made from man and was dust doubly refined. On the average, she has a smaller physique than man, finer features, and a more delicately poised emotional nature. She is referred to in scripture as a “weaker vessel” (1 Peter 2:7)—not that she is inferior mentally and certainly not biologically, but is weaker physically—having only about two-thirds the physical strength of a man her size.

In the making of woman, God performed the first surgical operation. And, like a modern surgeon, he put the patient to sleep—into a “deep sleep”—in order to make the operation painless. Opening up the side, he took a rib therefrom and closed up the flesh again. And the rib “builded he into” a woman, so scholars say the Hebrew text reads literally. While beyond our comprehension and certainly beyond man’s ability to perform, this need not surprise us, for scientists think they have discovered that every cell of the body carries within it a code for the structure of the body as a whole. But the point of primary significance is that the first woman was actually a part of the first man—bone of his bones and flesh of his flesh, as he expressed it, either by inspiration of God or as a result of God’s explanation to him of what he had done. That is why he called her “woman” (Hebrew, ishah, feminine of ish), the male of the species called adam, which was also a proper name of the first man as Eve (Hebrew, havah, living, or life) was of the first woman.

The manner of the woman’s creation and the general teaching of the scriptures relative to the divinely intended relationship between man and woman, led Matthew Henry to express beautifully the sentiment that woman was “not made out of his head to rule over him, nor out of his feet to be trampled upon by him, but out of his side to be equal with him, under his arm to be protected, and near his heart to be loved.” And the scriptures speak of woman as “the glory of the man” (1 Corinthians 11:7). Every step and stage of her creation and presentation to man was designed to make her special in his sight, far above any animal that had been created, and for the enoblement of marriage between man and woman.

Incidentally, only one woman was made for the one man, and monogamous marriage was God’s intention for the race. Also, woman did not evolve from a lower form of life, as Adam did not; but both came into existence by special creation by the Almighty. And for either a man or woman to deign to mate with an animal was considered degrading and worthy of death (See Exodus 22:19; Leviticus 18:23; 20:15-16; Deuteronomy 27:21).

Dating

SOURCE:  Good News for YOUth, June-July 1999

Why Date a Christian?

by Paul Meacham, III

“And the Lord God said, it is not good that the man should be alone” (Gen 2:18).  Throughout the creation account God said, “It is good,” until He came to Adam’s being alone.  It was at this time that He made Eve to be “an help meet (suitable) unto him” (Gen 2:18).

When God chose a mate for man, He chose one who would be a helper.  When we begin the process of finding a mate, dating, we should be just as interested in finding one who will help us go to heaven.  Therefore, we should date Christians.

When dating, many young people do not think seriously about marriage.  Many view dating as a chance to have fun and nothing more.  After dating a non-Christian, they marry a non-Christian and find themselves in a difficult situation.  Some do not take dating seriously because they believe they have the power to get out of any situation no matter how difficult the situation becomes.  The truth is, the worse the situation becomes the harder it is to get out of.

We have a warning given in 1 Corinthians 15:33, “Be not deceived evil companionships corrupt good morals.”  You are probably thinking, “No way!  My companions are not evil!”  Ask yourself these questions:
        Are they helping you attain your goal, heaven?

        If not, are they actively hindering you?  They are doing
             one or the other.

        If the people you date use bad language, drink, smoke
             take drugs in any form, frequent places you know a
             Christian cannot go, or try to get you to do anything
             you should not do, then why do you date them?

        Is that person’s company worth risking your soul?

As young people, our companions often influence us.  Sometimes we are pressured into doing things we would not do otherwise.  This is especially true of those we date.  They tend to exert a great influence over us, both on and off a date.  If we date non-Christians, then the influence will not be an influence for good.  Additionally, if our date is not a Christian, then his or her associates will probably have a poor influence on us as well.

It is human nature to want to be accepted as part of a group.  We gain acceptance by doing what the group is doing.  However, Exodus 23:2 warns us, we are not to do something just because “the group” is doing it.  We must go to the Bible, the standard of right and wrong, to determine whether or not the activity of the group is acceptable to almighty God.  If the activity is not acceptable, then we should not associate with those  who do (Eph 5:11; 1 Thes 5:22).  The right choice is made harder when our date is part of the group encouraging us to do wrong.  If the person we choose to date is a faithful, active, member of the Lord’s body, the strain on us to do something wrong is greatly lessened.

In the fight to remain spiritually pure, we need our closest friends to be those who will help us remain faithful to the pattern set forth by God.

The church is losing her young at an alarming rate.  One of the reasons is because they are dating those who are not members of the church.  In 1 Kings 11:8, we find Solomon burning incense to the gods of his strange (those not Israelites) wives.  Verse 9 shows us that because Solomon’s heart was turned, God was angry.  The man who built the temple of God, was turned away from God by his wives.  You might say, “I am not married, and I have no plan to be any time soon.”  When is the last time you heard of two people getting married without first dating?  If you date those who are not Christians, then you are flirting with danger, the greatest danger of all (Mk 8:36; Lk 9:25).

In conclusion, we will deal with an objection given by those who would date non-Christians.  They always say, “I can change them.”  For those of you who have converted your date, my hat is off to you.  You gave the proper example on and off your dates and in so doing, showed your date the way to salvation.  However, the truth is, if one person is changed it is usually the member of the body of Christ.  As we noted in the previous paragraph, we cannot play with fire.  If nothing else, we should date Christians because we like to be in the company of those of like precious faith.

No person is worth losing your soul over.  Therefore, the relationships we have should not tax our spiritual welfare; rather they should be encouraging and edifying.  If you are currently dating those who are not members of the church, then please carefully consider the danger.  Another could be much better suited to help you in your spiritual growth.

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