Why Doesn’t God Like Women?

Source: Bulletin, Highland church of Christ, Dalton, GA
Volume 9, #18, April 23, 2008

Why Doesn’t God Like Women?

by Roger D. Campbell

God does not like women? Who said so? Where did that idea come from? In many cases, the notion that God does not like women is espoused or implied by those that unashamedly let it be known that they do not like God! Is it really true that God does not care for women as much as He does men? Not at all.

Jesus declared that “God so loved the world, that He gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life” (John 3:16). Since God loved “the world,” then His love is for all of earth’s inhabitants, without regard to their gender. Not only that, but we also see in this passage that God’s plan to save people is for women just as much as it is for men. This is evidenced by the fact that “whosoever” has the opportunity to believe in and have eternal life through the Christ. As clear as these truths are, still there are some who claim that God does not treat women as well as He does the males of the human race.

“If it is true that God likes women, then why did He punish Eve? And why make the rest of the women that came after her suffer because of what she did?” Jehovah punished Eve because she disobeyed His word. Yes, she was beguiled/deceived (2 Corinthians 11:3), but she took action that was a violation of God’s law (1 Timothy 2:14). For that, she was punished (Genesis 3:16). Do not overlook the fact that Adam was punished as well (Genesis 3:17-19). The sorrow and pain in childbearing that women of all generations have endured are a consequence of Eve’s sin. Some mistakes carry longer and more far-reaching consequences. Eve’s was such a mistake. Why do the consequences of her sin continue even today? Because God, Whose wisdom is without measure, and Who does not need human counselors, advisers, or permission to act (Romans 11:33-34), decreed that it shall be so. Yet, that truth does not give a single ounce of support to the false notion that He does not love women.

“If God really likes women, then why does He not allow them to be pastors/elders?” One of the Lord’s requirements for an elder is that such a Christian be “the husband of one wife” (Titus 1:6; 1 Timothy 3:2). Since God’s plan is for “a man” to leave “his” parents to marry a woman (Ephesians 5:31), then the only type of person that can properly be “the husband of one wife” is a male. So, since women cannot meet the criterion of being “the husband,” then they may not serve as pastors. Someone had to decide which people are authorized to serve as the shepherds of local congregations. The Christ, who has all authority (Matthew 28:18), decided the matter. Someone has to lead and rule the flock of God (1 Peter 5:1-3), and the Lord chose faithful brothers, not sisters, for such a task. That does not mean that women cannot serve faithfully and effectively in the Kingdom. Anyone that has been observant knows that a whole lot of the good work that is done in the church is done by faithful sisters in the Lord, and He is not unrighteous to forget their work and labor of love (Hebrews 6:10). In some instances, they may have different roles from their brothers in the Lord, but they are just as valuable and just as loved by the Creator!

“If God really likes women, then why doesn’t He let them teach?” On the contrary–He wants them to teach! Every time Christians lift their voices together to praise God in song, they teach (Colossians 3:16). The Lord wants all of His servants, including women, to be “apt to teach” (2 Timothy 2:24). Sisters in the Lord were part of the group of scattered disciples that went everywhere teaching the word (Acts 8:4). “The aged women … they may teach the young women…” (Titus 2:3-4). The restriction that God has placed on sisters in the Lord is that they are not allowed to teach men in such a way that they have dominion over them: “And I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man, but to be in silence” (1 Timothy 2:12, NKJV). Why is that the case? Two reasons are given in the verses that follow: “For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression.” If God had given only one reason or explanation, or even if He gave no explanation at all, humans must still submit to His will in all things.

Women are often effective communicators of the gospel, but the Lord saw fit to have them teach the gospel in ways that they do not serve as gospel preachers. Simply because a person is not allowed to be a gospel preacher, though, is a far cry from saying that the One who disallows such action does not like them. Every reasonable parent knows that the fact that they do not allow a child to do something does not mean that they do not love the child. So it is with God and women.

“Well, if God likes women, then why does He make her be a servant to her husband?” The Bible nowhere teaches that a wife is her husband’s slave, and a decent husband, rather than treat her as a thing or possession, gives her honor (1 Peter 3:7). Is a wife required to serve her husband? Yes, but it is just as true that he ought to serve her as well. All Christians are charged, “… by love serve one another” (Galatians 5:13). That certainly applies in the husband-wife relationship: love one another, and show that love by serving each other. That being said, there is need for headship in the home, and by God’s decree “the husband is the head of the wife” (Ephesians 5:23). That statement is not a slap in the face to women, nor does it in any way suggest that God considers women to be inferior to men. In many ways, wives “outdo” their men and demonstrate more character, more ability, and wiser judgment. Those facts do not change the truth that the husband is the God-ordained head of the wife and family. In the realm of the home, husbands and wives simply have different roles. Should we conclude, then, that the Lord does not like women? No, no more than we should conclude that because men are not capable of bearing and breastfeeding a baby, then that proves that God does not like men.

Women and men alike have the privilege of obeying the gospel and becoming children of God through His Son. What greater proof of God’s love for women would a person need?! “For ye are all the children of God by faith in Christ Jesus. For as many of you as have been baptized into Christ have put on Christ … there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus” (Galatians 3:26-28). Perhaps the next time we hear someone pop off about God not liking women, we will be a bit more prepared to give a scriptural response. May it be so.